Intentional Loving Series Day 16: Well-Timed Silence

Posted: 10 years ago | By: Christine Somers | In: Intentional Loving Series | Read Time: 1 minute, 18 seconds

"Well-timed silence is the most commanding expression." ~ Mark Helprin

Not long after Marty and I first starting dating, we spent one Friday evening together in silence. This was neither planned nor encouraged by either one of us. The week had been long, the work tiring and we came together for dinner and companionship. The next day Marty remarked how nice it was to be together without feeling required to talk or entertain one another. I was surprised at his comment because I hadn't noticed the silence; it just was. The silence seemed natural and necessary after a busy workweek. 

Silence is a rarity in our modern society. Gas stations have installed gas pumps with video screens while most restaurants have TVs or music blaring continuously. It's as though people are afraid of silence as though they are afraid to be alone with their own thoughts or allow another to be alone with their thoughts. Relationships can be enhanced by moments of silence but it is difficult to find setting that allow for quiet time together. I've learned that my grandchildren open up to me about what is important to them during periods of silence. And in those moments I am more receptive when the environment is quiet. Silence in a relationship is to be cherished not feared. 

Is silence part of your life? Do you have quiet moments with your family or friends? If not, why? Is it your environment or is it something else? Can you spend time in silence with your loved ones?